The woman wonders if she did the right thing in breaking up with her father; Redditors say, ‘It had to happen’

When a parent dates someone much younger than them, their children often do not interact with their new partner. For one woman, things came to a head when her father’s friend passed judgment on the way she and her sister dressed at home. She gave her father an ultimatum and made him break up.

However, the gloomy atmosphere at home then made her doubt her actions, so she took to the popular subreddit, r/AITAH, to share her story and ask for the community’s opinion.

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Everything went well at first. They went escape rooms together to bond, and as things progressed over the next three months, the father brought Ashley home.

The trouble started when Ashley made a comment about how she was “serving” her father.

“My mother was very traditional and of Spanish origin, so morals influenced me a lot. If my father is busy with work or busy, I am thoughtful enough to serve him and so on. I was raised to be considerate of the family. “But it’s not my job to serve him when he doesn’t want to come to the table after being called,” the woman explained in her post.

I told Ashley that and she ignored the comment. However, this was just the beginning. Ashley’s first night at the family home was due to her drinking too much in the evening. The next morning, she saw the doctor washing her clothes and asked her why she didn’t do it for everyone in the house.

The woman explained that in her house, everyone did their own laundry, and Ashley responded that her sister should take more responsibility and that “it’s not good to be selfish.”“

This didn’t sit well with the OP, who talked to her father about it. He said he would talk to Ashley, but with little effect. OP started to feel like Ashley was competing with her for her father’s affection.

Ashley asked why his daughters were still with him and had not moved out yet, and the man explained that it was a “cultural and religious matter” for children not to move out of the family home until marriage. The father also preferred that his daughters stay with him.

Later, Ashley apparently told the OP that she shouldn’t have called her father “Papi” at her age, because it had a “sexual connotation.” This time, the younger sister intervenes and tells her that the matter is cultural.

She even said that the loose shirts and shorts the sisters were wearing were too revealing and attracted attention, and that they should be ashamed to dress like that with their father, let alone live with him.

This made the OP snap. She claimed she had started cursing earlier, but then got into a physical altercation, and the sister and father had to pull her away from Ashley.

The woman then gave her father an ultimatum to choose between her and his girlfriend, otherwise she would “remind him of his mother for the rest of his life.”The night ended with Ashley getting dropped, and from then on things got awkward in the house.

The younger sister told OP that she shouldn’t have hit Ashley or raised their mother, who died four years ago, during the fight. Although she apologized to her father and he told her it was okay, over the next few days, he mostly answered her with one word. While they were waiting for the family to return to normal, the OP asked Reddit if she was wrong.

One person called out Ashley, saying, “She had no right to try to raise you – especially since she’s only five years older than you.”

Another insisted: “Her comments about them living there made it clear she was envisioning moving in with her father, and having the place to herself. She was trying to kick them out, assuming the father would stand by her.”

“Everyone in the house needed that. Even if it wasn’t a good thing/or a good reaction at first. It had to happen. She was very emotionally abusive and immature and sometimes older people find that endearing. Maybe that’s why she was so easy to deal with. But you’re his children and you deserve love and protection. He’s raising you so well,” a third said.

“Maybe he’s quiet because he knows he let you down,” one person insisted. “He’ll have to choose better next time.”

“You did your father a favor,” a fifth pointed out.

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