veteran actor Kabir Bedi On January 16, 2016, he married Parvin Dushange, a producer and researcher of British origin, after almost ten years of relationship. At that time, Kabir was 70 years old and Parveen was 41 years old, that is, the age difference between them was 29 years.Parveen, a London-based researcher and producer, Kabir often counted as one of his strongest pillars of support. The marriage followed Kabir’s divorce from his third wife Nikki Bedi in 2005.In a frank conversation with Radio “Nasha”, the couple recalled their love story – from the first meeting in London to the difference in age and life experience.
“This is where I met Parvin”
When asked about their first meeting, Kabir recalled it vividly.“Yes, of course. It started in London. I was in a play at the Shaftesbury Theater in the West End. It’s a big theater – about 1,700 seats, with several balconies and boxes.After the performance, there are usually invitations to various meetings and parties. So I attended one of those parties – and there I met Parveen.She did not come there to meet me. She accompanied a friend who wanted to become an actress and wanted to meet me.
To be honest, I wasn’t particularly interested in her friend. But when I met Parveen, I felt something else. There was an immediate connection — although at first we were just acquaintances.”
“I stereotyped him”
Parveen admitted that she initially judged him based on his profession.“He was very charming and polite to my friend – very sweet, very attractive. I sat there and watched everything. I had a very serious job at the time.
I worked with the government on social policy research. I had nothing to do with the world of cinema or acting.Yes, I put it stereotypically. I thought, “He’s an actor—probably a shallow one.” I didn’t know any better at the time. He knows it!” she said with a laugh.However, during their conversation, her perception began to change.“But then he started talking about going to Holy Isle in Scotland that weekend — that beautiful little island.
This caught my attention. It was unusual. Then he remembered that his mother had become a Buddhist nun. This surprised me a lot. I thought, OK, that’s interesting…maybe there’s more depth here than I thought.
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From friendship to love
Kabir revealed that when he realized he was attracted to Parveen, he chose honesty.“When I realized I was attracted to her, I was very honest. I clearly told her that my marriage had recently ended and I was not ready for a serious commitment.
I said, “If you want something casual, that’s fine.” But now I’m not ready for a long-term commitment.”Parveen was equally clear in her response.“And I told him just as clearly – I don’t start casual relationships. It’s better for us to remain friends.”Kabir added: “And that’s exactly what we did. For about four to six months, we were just friends. But life has its own way of bringing people together. Gradually, that friendship turned into love — and it became something very deep and meaningful.”
“I went into it with my eyes wide open”
Addressing Kabir’s age difference and past marriages, Parveen explained why she decided to stay.“That’s a good question. I went into this relationship with my eyes wide open. There was history. There was baggage. It would be foolish to ignore that.But what kept me going was that he was a genuinely kind, decent person.Even after three marriages, he still believed in love. He was not bitter. He was not cynical. He was still an optimist.
He still believed in the power of love and marriage. I thought it was incredibly beautiful.” Kabir also talked about why he chose marriage again.“If I didn’t believe in marriage, why would I keep getting married? If I wanted to be single, I would stay single.At this point in my life, I knew I wanted communication. Yes, there are benefits to being single. But the depth of companionship and love that you get in a marriage, you don’t get that in a casual relationship.We build life together. We are getting closer in many ways. I have strengths and weaknesses; she has her own. But together we are better.”
